Presidential Discussions

Last night the subject of US Presidents came up around the dinner table. The kids had been talking about them at school since it was just recently Presidents’ Day. They said that they were able to vote for classmates for President and divulged to us for whom they had voted. We laughed and talked about how their friends would make good presidents.

Then came the serious look from Ken and we both knew what the other was thinking. I didn’t know if we should broach the subject now or wait, but Ken took the initiative and explained to the kids how they would never actually be able to be President of the United States. It was one of those unique situations that international adoption poses and a reminder that, as I mentioned in one of my first posts, our family is different.  As our kids grow up, we know they will be exposed to situations that may confuse them and undermine their significance. We don’t want to discourage them with hard truths, but we also want to be the ones to introduce them to these things so that we can discuss them and make sure they are getting a correct and healthy perspective.

Ken stated basically, that because they were not born in the United States, they were not eligible to be President. Then, to our surprise and amusement, our son announced, “Well Barack Obama wasn’t born in the United States and he’s President.” We chuckled at the irony of what he said and asked why he said it. He said it was because President Obama was African American. That allowed us to explain what that meant and to inform him that the President was born in Hawaii, which is part of the United States of America.

Then I noticed tears in my son’s eyes and my daughter’s head was down and she had a big frown on her face.  Our boy quickly recovered and the conversation continued as we talked about how there had been no women Presidents yet, but that there might be someday. We talked about how they could be Senators or do a number of other great things. But our poor little girl was heartbroken. She just sat with a frown and a blank stare.  My heart ached for her, but at the same time, I was so encouraged that she {and her brother} are so confident that they don’t see the Presidency as being out of their reach.

Seeing how distraught she was, we continued to name great people whom they could inspire to emulate, and her spirits lifted. I can only pray that their confidence continues to grow and that we can guide them appropriately so they can indeed go on to achieve great things in this world and for eternity.

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